Divorce for Men – What You Need to Know to Recover

By: Johnfox | Posted: 06th January 2011

Divorce for Men – What You Need to Know to Recover

Divorce for men, how does it really affect a guy? Well, if you have never been through it, you may be forgiven for not quite understanding the gut wrenching feeling of having your entire life and dreams come crashing down around you. If you are going through a divorce, or are living in the aftermath of one, then you know this feeling all too well.

In the end though, this phase of your life has come to an end and you must recover from this monumental setback and move forward. This is always easier said than done, but there are a few important things you must know that will make this transition easier.

Dealing with Memories

Being flooded with memories of your ex, or your old marriage can sometimes get you low. It can even trigger entire breakdowns, so being able to deal with recurring intrusive memories is paramount to being able to move on.

One trick is to imagine your bad memories and worries like a film of dirt on your skin, then imagine taking a mental “shower”.

As you step into this imaginary shower feel the warm water coursing down your body and washing away that dirt and sweat off your body then down the drain.

Now really associate this dirt washing away with memories and bad feelings washing away. See an image of your ex-wife washing down from your heart off your body and down the drain.

Now feel that clean sensation of being clean after having a shower with this
mental state. All the bad feelings washed away and a new clean you left in its
place … refreshed and ready to go!

Dealing with the Now

One important part of dealing with the day to day stresses of life is that you must live in the now even if the now seems painful. The problem is not what is happening now, but the huge amount of baggage you have from the past.

As such, letting go of the past and just taking each day as it comes while living life in the context of the day and not the future, nor dwelling on the past. Being happy with yourself at each moment in time is what you need to have in your heart. That way your happiness resides inside of you, and is not controlled by external forces or other people.

Dealing with the Future

The future is something that can scare many divorced men because it is so unknown. Before it seemed so clear, but now you don’t know where you are going often because deep down you don’t really know who you are anymore or how to act as a single man.

This can be a very difficult problem to overcome and requires a deeper understanding of your own mind and psychology. Knowing exactly what the real problems are in your psyche gives you a much clearer view on how divorce for men can be overcome. To find out more about this approach click below and start living your life, not just existing.

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I thank you for taking the time to read this short report
Johnfox
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