Can I Stop My Divorce - Here Is Help To Make That A Yes
By: W. Scott | Posted: 23rd November 2009
When someone asks me, "Can I stop my divorce?" I normally respond that I hope so. There are too many variables to say for certain, so this advice is somewhat general in scope and designed to help in all circumstances at least to a degree.
I have known a number of divorce lawyers over the years and it is no secret that they do a booming business. With over 50 percent of all marriages in the United States ending in divorce it does make one wonder what is going on.
At times there are accusations that people marry too young. Headstrong teenagers with raging hormones think they know what true love is. I tend to doubt it. What I do know is that they have no concept of "til death do us part". After all, a person 20 years old has little concept of 10 years time, let alone 30 years or more.
The answer to "can I stop my divorce" may in part hinge on whether your marriage was ever really meant to be. But more often it seems like the husband and wife have simply drifted apart, perhaps changing over time.
We all change, and who is to say who changes more. Women often change quite radically when they become a mother; men less so when they become a father. In some marriages, the husband still engages in all of his favorite hobbies while the wife is forced to make children her hobby.
These differences in "perceived value" from the marriage can lead to resentment. Have you or your spouse been "keeping score" in your marriage? I find that to be a bad thing that only leads to lack of contentment and even animosity in the marriage.
Marriage counseling can be an effective way to stop divorce, but the process has to be respected by both spouses, and that does not always happen. Additionally, counseling can be very expensive and that can put additional strain on the marriage.
If you want to be proactive and stop your divorce, are you willing to sacrifice a little to save the marriage? Could you give up some of the time you may have spent on a hobby or interest of yours in order to show some interest in a hobby of your spouse?
Do not interfere with a hobby that your spouse considers to be his or her own personal time, but if they seem excited that you would show an interest, see if you sincerely can. But do not let it turn to resentment that you are doing what they want to do.
Be sure and show genuine interest and even look for opportunities to show a small display of affection, such as putting a hand on his/her shoulder or even a smile.
Generally speaking, any marriage will benefit when one or both spouses will think less about their own happiness in order to concentrate on making their partner happy. Look for little ways you can do that in your marriage and maybe your spouse will even reciprocate.
Depending on how imminent your divorce may be determine how fast you have to act and with what tactics.
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Mr. Scott has enjoyed assisting people with relationship issues for many years. He may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.
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