Losing your wife probably feels like the worst thing that ever happened to you; maybe you were even the one to initially ask for the divorce. That does not matter, though, what is important is that you miss her and need to know
how to get your wife back.
Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes we react without thinking. Perhaps you or your wife were a bit hasty to call an end to the marriage; maybe it seemed like the only way at the time. Your heart is now telling you that it was a mistake.
How can you go about fixing the mistake and save the marriage? Lots will depend on your exact circumstances but here are some simple tips that are easy to implement that are sure to get you started on the right track for how to get your wife back.
First let us look and some things you should NOT do if you want to get back your wife:
1.) Do not call or harass her in any way. Kind of the "do no harm" strategy. If you act too aggressively you can either scare her away - maybe for good, or have her thinking that you are desperate or needy. Neither is a good way for her to think of you.
2.) Do not try to make her jealous by dating other woman or parading around with another girl on your arm. Even if this tactic worked, and it usually just makes the ex wife angry, you do not want her back on terms of jealousy. True love is the only way a marriage will last long term.
3.) Do not try to use the children, if there are any, as leverage or "weapons" to shame, convince or influence your wife to come back to you. Leave the children out of it. This is something that can leave children scarred and resenting you well into adulthood. Please do not do it.
On the positive side, here are some tips you should do that will help you get your wife back:
1.) Give your ex plenty of space and time for reflection. Just as you do not want to make her jealous do not concern yourself that she will be off with someone else either. Let her have a chance to cool down and even start to miss having you around.
2.) Spend time enjoying yourself, taking care of yourself and trying to establish and maintain a positive outlook on life. Eat better, sleep right and exercise. Shed a few pounds if you have them to spare; maybe by picking back up a sport or hobby you had to put aside for some reason.
3.) If you do have children then concentrate on being a good dad. Yes, most woman are turned on by a guy who is good to her children but that is not why you are doing it. You should be good to your kids because that is the kind of person you want to be. If that helps you get your wife back then all the better.
4.) Do resolve to learn from your past mistakes and take whatever steps you can to avoid repeating them in the marriage should you get your wife back and you get another chance. Was money a problem? Maybe apply yourself more at work to earn a promotion or find a better job.
These tips by themselves are not everything you need to know for
how to get your wife back, but they are an excellent beginning and will put you on a much better path personally, with your children and with your ex wife. This will improve your chances of regaining her love and respect also.
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Mr. Scott has enjoyed assisting people with relationship and marriage issues for many years now. Please note that he may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.